I've been trying desperately to make Quiet Time live up to the name around here. I pretty much gave up on getting Kellan to nap over the holidays -- our schedules were just too crazy and out of whack. So I figured the return to normal life would be marked by more naptime battles.
Well, things aren't perfect, but I'm happy to report that he has slept two of the three days so far this week!
As for why things are going so well...I realized that much of the problem lies in how I'm putting him down at naptime. I used to read a short story, rock him, and put him down drowsy but awake. That's what all the parenting books say to do, right? Well, that left him sleepy, but the second I put him in bed he would be alert and be ready to goof around.
My new approach is rocking, and lots of it. He babbles at me, I keep rocking. He grabs at the back of the rocking chair, I keep rocking. He fidgets with his lips, I keep rocking. It's all in the rocking. Eventually, he can't resist and he finally quiets down.
A little voice in the back of my head is saying, "Don't do this! You'll have to rock him endlessly every time he needs to sleep!" I'm ignoring this little voice. I think that advice held true in the baby days, but toddlerhood requires some serious relaxation assistance. He loves to point everything out in his naptime books, so those aren't helping if they only prompt conversations. And when I sing him lullabies, he sings along with me -- and applauds at the end! I think rocking is where it's at. It's working anyway, and that's what matters.
Now if I can just get him to stop waking up to "check in" at all hours of the night...it happened three times last night! I think I need a nap too.